The first step to challenge yourself

In my second video I talked about taking 4 steps to challenge yourself for 40 days! I agree that maybe 40 days might be too much, maybe you're working on a different challenge, maybe you're in school, maybe you're working a lot, maybe you have a family to care for... there is no excuse! If you are serious about getting to any goal or dream you have you NEED to start this process now. Getting to the big picture, the big dream, starts with the first small step! If cannot get serious you will not start! So what if you're in school, so what if you're working a lot, when was the last time you made that special time in the day to enjoy life? When did you say "I am going to leave work and workout right after it because I NEED to get in shape"? When did you last spend some valuable, valuable, heart-felt time with your family or even your wife, husband, boyfriend, girlfriend? When did you last decide to go after what you really enjoy in life?! There lies the biggest problem for so many! We are not getting what we need but rather what we can get, whatever someone else is offering, we're not really driven to say "I am not settling for less than I know I am worth" but we can. We can start using our power to direct our lives the way we want. This doesn't mean you have to quit your job, or leave your spouse, or your family, it means take control of your life so you can enjoy all of those just a little more, this first step you are doing is to give them what they deserve, which is all of you not just part of you, and most importantly it's to give yourself the best of yourself to YOURSELF! This is super important, you have to show the best of  yourself everyday to no one else but you first and foremost! So, let's start on the first step.
Usually when someone is need of a car they usually say "I just need something to get me from A to B" (later on in life after some success they say 'I don't just want anything to get from A to B, I want a BMW to get me around' which is awesome because they have realized the power they have in shaping their destiny and dreams") and that is what we're doing here! You are in a position right now that if you stop and let go of the demands of society i.e. cell phones, car, money, social life, and in general society's status importance, you will see there is, if not several, there is one area of your life that you really want, you dream of it, and you've only dreamed of it because you haven't started any action towards it. Whether that be dreaming of a financial status, dreaming of a relationship, dreaming of a career, whatever it may be, there is an area of your life you are not at yet! You're not at it yet because you have the same beliefs you had when you first dreamed of this career, this special person, the money you want, meaning you have not left the past, you still can only dream of it. Your beliefs direct life. I will repeat that, your beliefs direct your life. If you believe you cannot find the time to start on your career, then that's as true as believing you can achieve success in your career. A belief becomes a way of life after keeping it for so long, it becomes a habit to doubt oneself, and to just idly and say things like "It's O.K." or "It's alright" when someone brings up your weight or even when you look in the mirror and see the truth... YOU'RE FAT! YOU'RE OBESE! Once you realize the truth, you find that the only solution is within you. When you break through your lies you also break into the truth. No one else but you put the weight on and no one else but you can take off the weight. So step one is opening up and seeing the gap of where you are and where you want to be! It's that simple and easy! Many of us however would rather ignore the truth and live with and "OK" life and if you live with that what else is "OK" in your life, how about your emotions, or your health, or your relationships, are they OK, do you want to be OK for the rest of your life or do you want them to be amazing, incredible, passionate, through the roof?!!! So, step 1 is finding that area where you want to get to. It does not matter that you have not gotten there yet, that's in the past and you cannot get to the future by holding onto the past. Where are you? Where do you want to get to?
The next process is easy because now you know where you want to get but why? Why do you want to lose the weight and get in shape? Why do you want to re-connect with your wife or husband or girlfriend or boyfriend or family?! Why do you want to make the million dollars? This has happened to me, where I went into a wonderful stage of growth and then when I got to the top, or what I thought was the top, I fell. It's easy to fall when you don't know why you're going after what you're after. By getting to this financial goal does this mean freedom? Freedom to go anywhere at anytime? By re-connecting to someone special does that mean you get to share what life really is about to you, like sharing great time together and making memories? Does it mean you get to share your love with others and see that love grow and even come back to you? What does this goal mean? Where does this goal bring you to in life? When you get to this dream does it mean you are getting closer being able to support yourself and your family as well? If you don't get clear about the meaning for achieving your goal or dream, you will keep going without knowing why you're going or what you're going after. You will keep working a 9-5 and feel hopeless, lost, confused, and maybe even frustrated because "Why do I keep doing this? For what?" and questions like that will keep coming up, along with the appropriate emotions like sadness, depression, anger. While we can mope around in these feelings we can also use them to kick-start us towards a feeling of freedom, achievement, success. So, write the meaning for getting this goal accomplished. In the end, even if you're not sure of where to go after you get the goal done, what did it mean to have the goal accomplished?
Finally, the last part of getting yourself to start your change and never look back is deciding. "I already decided that I want my goal and that I have a meaning for it, this decision talk is not for me" I can hear some of you saying something along these lines, and if you are so committed and ready to go after your goals, then maybe this part might not be for you but if you think there are probably going to be times when you might fall down and might not be ready to get back up immediately then decision is really important. You need to decide! Decide to go after your goal and to not let anything deter you from it. The decision part is where you decide to not let what has happened in the past come up now and throw you down. That just because you've tried so many times to find the right person to be in a relationship with and it has not happened yet that you are not going to give up because you still have not found the right person. When you decide, you commit, you are in it to complete it. So, you have to remember to stay with your goal, if you stay with your doubts of whether this is going to work or not, or with your beliefs of "I don't think I can do it" or "It's not going to work this time because it has not worked before" then it you won't do it and it won't work. With decision you break out of those things that can catch you and not let you go "I can't believe they did this! I try so hard to make this work and nothing!" NO! You already decided. This last part is the most important part to making this whole thing work, to making yourself work non-stop towards your goal. By non-stop I mean, sure things may happen, acts of God, if I may, can really put a hold on where you're going, you might have to put things on pause and help re-construct a neighborhood, a family, a friend who just lost someone and this doesn't mean you go about things in an unfriendly manner and just say "Listen, I really can't help you right now because I'm going after my goal". There most definitely are situations in which you really can give it your best to help someone or something to a point where you know you gave it your all and now can take action to get back to your goal. This also doesn't mean because there are problems or issues with your family that you just ignore it and go after your goal, NO!, right there is where you can step in and show yourself the power you have to take control of the situation and if you can't take control of it, which is fine, at least know where you stand inside when there's a glass with water in it and everyone around is saying "The cup is half empty" you know it's not because if it was for you too then you wouldn't have the power to say "The cup is half full" because you know that wherever it came from, there's more to come just as you've found out for yourself! So, decision is, if not the biggest, one of the biggest points in taking the first step towards freedom, liberation, and in truth, towards your goals, your dreams. Decide, make it today, decide right now to take this action in your life to never, ever give up your goal or dream no matter what. That everyday is another to grow for yourself towards the direction you want in life! Go for it and do it because you can read all of this and you can write this but it doesn't pay a penny if you're not living it! Live this goal, this day, this life with joy, passion, and love!