The energy in your peace and love

A friend recently wrote to me about her experience this week. She was asked to care for a friend who is passing away from cancer. The family personally asked her to come and purchased her ticket from Maui to Virginia! And this morning, as I started working, I was not sure where to start the day really but I set my intention onto two goals that I have for today and know that I will accomplish them but I was stuck on where to start today! Then I checked my email and received this message from my friend. As my friend explained, the drastic decline in overall response and communication, from the time she got on the plane and even until now, has been a drastic decline. Her friend barely talks or communicates anymore, she doesn't even drink water except for a few drops every now and then. The message really stood out to me because even as my friend is witnessing this soul slowly leave, she remains the same lighthearted, enthusiastic, passion-driven person I've known. She shared that her friend was known around the community because she's been there her whole life, she's been a big part of the church, and has touched so many people there. I responded to the message by reminding my friend of all there still is there.
Even through the passing away of someone, even as the physical body is leaving, there is still so much more. There's tears, there's sadness, there's joy, there's peace, and simply put, there is love. There is so much love for this special person who shared so much of herself with the community and although I don't know her personally, it really sounds like she is an important person for the family and to even bring someone specifically out to care for this loved one, that says a lot I think. It says" there's so much care for this person we care for that we want this person because of what this person carries" which in this case I think my friend has incredible energy that she creates everyday, she has amazing enthusiasm for whatever she does, and she carries amazing warmth, care, and love wherever she goes and whoever she's with. As the friend is passing away there is so much going on, maybe more than when she did not have cancer, there's all this pouring out of love, there's all of this connection going on I imagine, there's probably friends and family getting together to visit someone this special.
Imagine having that one special person in your life, that person you consider special that you would do anything for, that person who if they were in this position of passing away, that would do anything during their last days here, this may not sound too appealing for some or happy but imagine being able to never feel like there wasn't something you wanted to give that person, or that there wasn't something you forgot to tell them or didn't tell them like "You are the most special person in the world and without you, I might not smile this big or laugh as much as I do but you really put that light on for me to bring out the best of myself for me, for you, and everyone else". So, what's holding you from doing that now? Have you decided who this person in your life is or who the people in your life that make your life that much better are? Do you think you would lose something if you told someone how special they are to you? How do you think they would feel if you told them this? Is there someone you haven't talked to who you think could maybe use some special words of kindness and care? Is this special person you? Have you told yourself how incredible and awesome you are? These questions are really for you to ask "What do I care about? Do I care about care? Do I care about kindness? Do I care about someone else's feelings? Do I want this world to shine brighter for the better?"
I believe deep down inside, we all care about each other, sometimes we might lose that connection with ourselves and others, we might begin thinking we are separate from others, we might think someone is trying to take us down, we might make a connection where someone is sharing their care and we might interpret it as rudeness, selfishness, or any other low-energy character and we might unconsciously make this connection because of our past, because so and so happened so now "I cannot trust that someone is doing this out of care or kindness" but do you really think someone is out there to take something away from you, do you really think someone does not care about how you feel, if you really think someone is out there trying to take something away from you or doesn't care about how you feel then yes, you can believe there is and before you know it, you do something, and you might be unaware of what you're doing that incites this distrust between you and the other which then becomes this vicious circle where "someone is trying to do this and that to me but they don't know me any better" is this really true or are you making this more than what is simply is? Making it up in the mind before it's actually reality?
I go back to my friend's friend who is passing away because in those moments, when someone is about to be lost, sometimes even when someone leaves us, we have that moment of silence, that moment in which all of those feelings and emotions of care, kindness, and love come out. In one of my relationships, right after it ended, I felt at peace, I felt this compassion, I felt happy, energized, joyous. I might not have always been able to share these wonderful feelings while in the relationship but I was basically making it up in my head that I couldn't trust this person because she was doing this or that or she was seeing this person or that person and what that really meant was that I cared for her, maybe I didn't express it or show in the best way but I also was not able to identify this as care because I got trapped in my short responses, simply put that's what they are, small answers for small people, quick to the point, but they're not the real answer. After the break up, it was almost like I immediately felt so peaceful and cheerful and what the reality of our relationship was was that I cared for her, I didn't always say that, and I didn't really love her because I still had not found love for myself, upon entering the feelings I wanted to feel, I found out much more about this thing called love, I felt it a little more, I shared it a little more. During this time, maybe there are friends and family going to visit their loved one because she won't be around much longer and maybe, I think, in this case, not everyone has to come and share their care because as it sounds, she expressed her love and care for the community and loved ones, and I can imagine that as she showed her love and care for others, so did they for her! Live in that state that she lived in, live in peace, love, gratitude everyday so that everyday is that much more special not only to you but maybe others.